i guess my thought on al this is, shes an adult and if she wants to be a painslut and stuff and be degraded then ok, thats her choice , i wont degrade other ppls kinks. its be nice if she were more open about it. also, why not choose someone to do it with who actually wont ruin your life or leak you? like choose a guy who is trustworthy who you can be as naughty with as you want, but who you know wont leak you or ruin your life. or is that part of the thrill. ?