It is also ridiculous you talk about "real acceptance" but refuse to accept that someone has flaws. You are not accepting them, you are enabling them to stagnate and be complacent with the things that are wrong with them. Trying to delude them into thinking it's okay to have no drive to change things about themselves that are holding them back is unhealthy.

She is paranoid, stressed out easily over dumb things, lazy, has no purpose or deeper thought processes. She is incredibly shallow and insecure. She could pick up a fucking book for once instead of wasting her time feeding off shallow interactions in pedophile communities, so she can actually learn useful skills and apply herself, but she has no drive for anything in life. And you want to tell her these aren't flaws? She wastes her life doing nothing all day.